I have an 11 year old boy who's very interested in girls.
I have always been as open & honest with him in regards to anything he has ever wanted to ask.
One other thing I remember from this age is that while they boys feel all grown up and manly, they still need their mommy. Get him involved in sports and church and other activities that are healthier and where he can interact with members of both sexes without the weird pressure of going out. That won't be the last time you hear that one you have to learn to nip that one in the bud.
Tell him that all the really smart beautiful girls are going to be in college and he does not want to be already tied down to somebody since he was 11 when he gets there.
There is absolutely no need for alone time or unsupervised communication at this age!!!
One suggestion is that you have your husband have a man-to-man talk with him about getting ready to be a good husband by learning how to treat a girl.
I just went to a conference this weekend that talked about preparing our sons to eventually be husbands, and helping our daughters look for qualities in men (eventually) that show they'll be good husbands (I know radical for our day and age!
) for Voddie Baucham Jr's book called, What He Must Be..he wants to marry my daughter....
It has been several years now, so I don't recall what is age-appropriate for your son, but it seems like his talks and book/books were insightful. Explain to him that dating is for picking the person that he is going to ultimately marry and that at 11 he is no where near ready for that and that he needs to chill out and be friends with girls and boys and learn to make those kinds of relationships first.Please check out the info above..husband found it helpful.This is long-winded, but it gives the view point of talking to a son AND to a daughter, and about discussing different topics.Hi C., He sounds pretty grown up for an 11 year old boy.Even though he likes girls he is not allowed to touch anywhere inappropriate at that age.