The foundation for a good marriage is laid long before the wedding ceremony. Before parents allow dating, they should teach and encourage their children to follow biblical standards rather than turning them loose to do whatever comes naturally.
When we first begin dating, it should be for the purpose of social development-that is, learning about the opposite sex and the many differences in human personality, values and temperament.
In the United States, by the mid-1990s about two thirds of married women in their 20s had lived with their future spouses before getting married (Robert Moeller, “America’s Morality Report Card,” November-December 1995, pp. This dubious practice is followed by all too many young adults in the Western world.
Sadly, most don’t know the price they will pay for such conduct.
In this chapter we’re going to look at the godly way to find a husband or wife.
We’ll contrast the modern dating culture with godly dating practices.
Teaching young people proper behavior for dating is obviously ideal. He does not have two sets of guidelines, one for adults and one for youth.
They believe that sex is simply a natural expression of love between two people and therefore the normal thing to do when individuals are “going together” or living together in an exclusive relationship.If the couple breaks up and the two start dating others, the common assumption is that they are then free to have sexual relations with their new partners.This practice of serial monogamy-being sexually active with only one other person at a time-is widely considered to be a suitable way to date and find a future spouse.And breaking God’s laws is disastrous for people of all ages.To understand the difference between God’s way and the world’s, consider the dating practices common in Western countries.