This whole "going out to dinner" ritual is really an amazing concept. and how guys really believe that they need to do it (or similar things) in order to get a woman's attention in a romantic way.Here's the bottom line: If you want a woman to think of you as a "lover", then BE ONE.I pretended to think about it and then told her "I'm sorry but I'm just going to be way too busy to find time to call you.So If you promise to stop stalking me i'll give you my number and you can try and catch me when I have a few minutes of free time to talk." She eagerly took my number and when I got home about an hour later she had already left a message on my machine to see if I could go out with her this weekend! If you feel like asking both women for their numbers, do it.I now see situations in terms of: was I self-referenced (C & F Man) or externally referenced (wussie boy)? I used the C&F when I could, but basically kept cool. My old self would have foolishly denied her offer---thinking I was the man, thinking I was being chivalrous (how foolish ;). Once back at my place I used the start and stop technique. She would stop my hand from reaching too far so I decided that I wasn't going to push it and that tonight might not be "the night" with her so I was very relaxed. We started making out while saying goodbye----next thing I know , we were in the bedroom. Literally ;) C Fort Lauderdale, Fl Yea, you really are starting to GET IT. This stuff takes practice and real-world experience using it before you really "get it". It's so amazing to actually get out there and SEE results right in front of your eyes. mean: "I DON'T FEEL ATTRACTION." That's the bottom line. Don't be surprised if this same girl either IS or STARTS dating another guy seriously soon. This will help eliminate these types of comments from women once and for all. I'm sitting here thinking about it, and I can't remember a woman saying one of these things to me in YEARS. As I wandered around the store more I noticed that they seemed to always show up wherever I was.It is now very clear that success in anything comes to leaders not followers and women hate dealing with followers. Too many guys are just too damned overly-analytical, and want to know how to do EVERYTHING before they do ANYTHING. It gets you excited and willing to try more things... If you're hearing this kind of thing often, then you need to take it as a sign that you're not triggering ATTRACTION inside of women... So I stopped them and asked the girl that I was more attracted to "Excuse me but i'm going to have to ask you to stop stalking me." She looked at her friend like 'What is this boy talking about' and then she asked me for my name.If you have dialed up the ATTRACTION, then all you need to say is "come over here". Now, if you buy her dinner 10 times, call her 3 times a day, and chase her around, then it will be EXPECTED that you continue this pattern... NOTE: If you're buying a woman dinner twice a week, giving her flowers, calling her every day, and basically "chasing" her, then you can be about 80% sure that there's another guy in the picture... He's the one who SHE calls, and he's the one who says "Come over later, I'm busy now"... You'll learn that ATTRACTION doesn't have a timeline. " I am military and in my spare time I am a bartender. Then I told her not to get mad cuz I was cuter than she. The other bartender that she was talking to first, couldn't believe that I was doing this!!! for some odd reason didn't GET what was going on... They go out with guys that weigh like 300 lbs and dress like slobs. Women can smell a "victim" attitude 100 miles away, and it IS NOT ATTRACTIVE. What, do you think that all the average and ugly guys out there who have HOT girlfriends are getting them by being ugly? These guys are getting the babes because they know how to make the women feel ATTRACTION. I am sure many of your students like me have a woman that just won't let you go from an old relationship.
Is there anyway in these situations where you can get both girls numbers? I say things like this to women all the time, and they generally love it. I've noticed a strange circumstance since then, similar to what Napoleon Hill says about how when you choose a definite major purpose in life, ways and means of attaining that purpose seem to magically appear to you.If you want her to think of you as a provider, then just BE ONE. JR - Mexico OK, first of all, I think that you must have some kind of bizarre NUT OBSESSION, dude. But hey, fortunately you're on the right side of the "don't hand them over" equation, so everything seems like it might be all right for you. I am a 34 year old and divorced using your E-book to learn how to get back into the game.What you haven't quite realized fully yet is that when you know how to trigger ATTRACTION in a woman, all the "normal" rules go away. " Now normally if I were in his shoes and hadn't learned what you taught me... You've given some great examples of how to get an attractive woman's attention, tease her, and play with her to "spark" that initial sexual tension and "chemistry". Since I was raised by my parents to be a nice guy, submissive, wussy, it has been a challenge to overcome these self-destructive traits---but I am gaining ground every day. For the most part I am quiet and reserved----so I have needed to re-train myself in that area also.For example look at little boys dealing with little girls when they are playing together. Now help me get the word out to the other 3 billion guys on the planet. I immediately answered "Do you really think i'm just going to give my name out to a stalker?They boss them around, make them play by their rules and those girls grow up expecting men to lead them. Leaders get the girl, wussies get to be used and discarded. " once again she looked like she couldn't believe I was talking to her this way.