That was mostly because I transferred schools, but because we became friends first, we had a connection that drew us back together for a chance at something more.
What we found out was that we had much, much more than friendship in store for us.
Part of it, too, is that there’s more of an understanding (or at least there’s supposed to be) that hiring and applying for jobs is, well, business not personal.
As a result, everyone involved is expected to handle rejection reasonably professionally.
That’s one of the issues I see with online dating though.
Given that, it’s just the smarter option for women who don’t want to field a bunch of hostile and insulting messages not to respond to people to say “thanks but I don’t think we’re the right match.” Now, it’s certainly true that some job applicants also respond to rejection with hostility, but (a) they’re far less numerous than in online dating, (b) the intensity of the hostility seems to be lower, and (c) it’s part of the job in that situation to deal with the occasional whacked out response to rejection. (Not that they always do, of course, but there’s more of an expectation of it.) But a really big part of it is the reality that most women doing online dating quickly learn that if they send polite rejections to men who contact them, they’ll receive an enormous number of hostile and even abusive responses.And you can’t always tell who those are going to come from!Employers are expected to close the loop when someone sends them business correspondence, which is what a job application is.With online dating, there’s more of a cultural norm (among most people, at least) that if you’re not interested, there’s no need to respond to say that; it’s okay to just delete the message.