In the meantime, here are the preliminary results of the survey.
By far, the biggest challenge the respondents encountered was meeting quality men.
As Ok Cupid observed, the medical term for this is “male pattern madness”.
4) Women engage in similar behavioral patterns, just not as extreme.
He has commitment issues and will never really settle down with me.
I’ve come to realize that he is not good for me and have left twice but he has come back every time without promising me a future.
Both men are balding, but professionals, super nice, intelligent, thoughtful, in good shape, and fun to hang around. I haven’t seen the other’s profile (he’s a friend from church) but, really?
The most attractive men get 11X more than unattractive men.
To sum up, women find most men ugly, but write to them anyway.
When Bad Boy reached out to me 16 months later, the addiction was genuinely dead, and I could authentically say f*** off. A’s excellent advice, detox from your Bad Boy, and if you can, find something or someone that can pull you forward into the present or the future — rather than some wistful past that you’ve idealized. If you wanted to answer but didn’t get around to it, you can do it now here.
I’d be thrilled to hear your thoughts, since it will not only help me create better material for you, but also get to know you better.