If you suspect that you have these traits, please leave this website and redirect your attention to Admittedly, I had a challenging time starting to write this article, because the bulk of people who contacted me about their BPD relationships had been men, but I kept getting letters from females who said, "what about us~ why aren't you writing about encounters with narcissistic or borderline disordered males, and they taught me about what to avoid.
When I began recalling and including those experiences in this piece, it flowed.
Okay, Evan, I agree mostly with your opinion on younger men/older women. I mean, I can see why an older man would want to date a younger woman – physically that is, but why would a 28-year-old woman want to date a man 45 or more? I can totally understand why older men go for younger women.
There’s no denying that they’re, for the most part, in better shape, with better skin, and less baggage from broken relationships.
They’re more experienced, more chivalrous, and more likely to want to settle down than a twentysomething party boy.And yet, they probably resemble Penelope’s dad more than they resemble her brother….This is the most compelling reason behind why younger women might go for older men: they’re daddy substitutes.But let’s not pretend that we, as a culture, don’t worship at the altar of youth. He’s got the job and the home and the car, and been divorced with a kid already.If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age”, then you’re not immune to it yourself. And nobody has more choices than a 28-year-old woman. So if a woman finds it more appealing to just step into that world – to jump from the prolonged adolescence of the late 20’s into full-fledged settled-down womanhood – that could make sense.